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Thursday, March 13, 2014

Hello Friends,holding hands

I want to share an excellent tip from our amazing staff about how to have a happier marriage by knowing what your partner’s “love language” is.

According to Gary Demonte Chapman, a relationship counselor, author of The 5 Love Languages, and director of Marriage & Family Life Consultants, Inc. http://www.5lovelanguages.com/about/gary-chapman/ there are five love languages— the ways we demonstrate our love to others.

The first is acts of service—doing something for someone else. So, yes, doing the dishes for your significant other absolutely does say, “I love you!”

The second is gift giving, which is important not to confuse with materialism. The thoughtfulness that goes into gift giving says, “I love you!”

The third, physical touch, is a very common love language. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, ect. says, “I love you!” The right touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship, not just romantic.

The fourth, and my personal love language, is quality time. Nothing to me says, “I love you,” more then when someone sets aside time for a distraction free conversation or quality time for an activity like taking a walk together.

The fifth, and final love language is words of affirmation. For some people, hearing the words “I love you” means more than you know.

Even though these are tips for a happier marriage, this information can be useful to any couple or anyone in general. In any healthy relationship, romantic or otherwise, it is always important to know how to say, “I love you” in a way that the other person can understand and vice versa. So, if you want a happier relationship, I ask you to take a moment to reflect on what says, “I love you,” to you? Is it: actions, receiving gifts, touch, quality time or words or affirmations? Next, find out what it is for the other person by taking the time to have an honest conversation with him/her. You are now on your way to having a stronger, happier relationship.

With hope and healing,